Handling Peer Conflict in a Neuro-Affirming Way

Peer conflict is part of every classroom, especially in SPED. But how we respond to hitting, shouting, pushing, or grabbing makes all the difference. Instead of punishment and shame, we can use these moments to teach regulation, communication, and repair.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why conflict happens, how to respond in a neuro-affirming way, and practical strategies for turning tough moments into powerful learning opportunities for both students involved.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

✨ Why conflict is communication, not “bad behavior”
✨ The importance of regulation before education
✨ How to debrief and reflect when students are calm
✨ Ways to teach missing skills like asking for space or saying “stop”
✨ Why shame, isolation, and punishment don’t work (and what to do instead)
✨ How to support the other student in conflict with validation and empowerment
✨ How to build a classroom culture where mistakes are safe and repair is supported

Links and Resources

• Explore visuals, social stories, and regulation supports for teaching conflict resolution.

• Share your classroom wins with me on Instagram @teachingautism - I love seeing how you’re handling conflict with compassion in your classrooms.

👉 Tune in and learn how to reframe peer conflict from a punishment moment into a powerful opportunity for connection, skill-building, and growth.